How To Treat Other Kids Kindly On Halloween

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We would love it if you would read this blog post to your children and have a discussion about differences. We, as parents, sometimes think our kids understand more than they do. When they ask “What's wrong with her?” and point, they aren't being malicious, but curious. That is why it is important for us to have these conversations before that moment.

Halloween is easily one of the best holidays when you're a kid. You get to pretend to be anything you want to be - usually whatever it is that you have been loving lately - and walk around with your family and friends and get candy.

Dress up + candy = the ultimate day ever.

That is, for most kids. Not all kids love Halloween. Not all kids understand Halloween.

It might be a super fun experience for you and your friends, but your neighbor might feel scared by all of the people, costumes and noises. They might be allergic to a lot of food and candies, so they don't get anything when they trick or treat. They might have wanted to be Captain America but they are in a wheelchair and someone said Captain America would never be in a wheelchair.

Maybe their parents couldn't buy them a new costume, so they are the same thing as last year.

Maybe they look like an adult or a really big kid, but they are dressed up and excitedly screaming about Halloween and candy.

A lot of different things happen on Halloween and everyday. We need to be careful with our words. When we see people that are different than us, we might feel nervous or unsure and that is ok. Those feelings are not bad feelings. They are not mean.

But if we say something mean because of those feelings, then you will hurt their feelings. Sometimes, we don't think that our words are mean, so if you are not sure, quietly ask an adult if you can say it.

Let's give an example. John and Amy are trick or treating with their parents when they see another boy dressed like a princess.

Instead of saying, “Ew he is dressed like a girl,” you could say, “That dress is very fancy” or even something simpler like, “What is your favorite candy you got?”

This world is full of things we don't understand, even as parents and adults. We can still be kind and loving to one another even if we do not understand. Just like you and me, other people have feelings.


Parents be sure to talk to your kids about disabilities that may cause others to react differently. If you are looking for a resource to help you explain, this is a great site.

Written by: Raewyn Sangari, Project Lead Kindly Online Relations Manager